HI THERE! My name is Erin Byal. I am 26 years old, married to a marine, and I live in California. I am either laughing, smiling, or rolling my big eyes all the time. So, basically, I look and act like every other 26-year-old female.
Every picture you see of me I am either smiling like I just heard the funniest joke in the world, making the weirdest face, or next to my 6 foot tall Husband and our golden retriever, Kylo.
10 Things you should know about me:
- I do not have a college degree and I don’t plan on getting one anytime soon.
- I am married to a man named Brendan. He is in the Marine Corps and I am dang proud of him
- My mom always shares my blog posts on facebook
- I love cooking
- I have the loudest and best laugh you ever did hear
- I am a Christian
- I was homeschooled until I reached High School
- I grew up in Iowa. (Who the heck grows up in Iowa?!)
- I have 3 siblings who all got married and they made a bunch of kids
- I love sushi
That about sums me up. Except it doesn’t at the same time.
I moved away from home when I was 20 to Lincoln, NE. I attended UNL and lived with my brother and his family.
For the next couple of years, I struggled with really bad anxiety, different jobs, trying to figure out a career plan, changing schools, and a plethora of other things.
But, I did find my Husband there. And that’s really where this story begins.
As I mentioned before my husband is in the military, he is currently working to become an NFO (Naval Flight Officer) and is ALMOST done! He will be the backseater in an F-18, (a fighter jet if you don’t know). If that doesn’t make sense he is Goose, from the movie Top Gun. If you STILL don’t know what I’m talking about, well sorry, I can’t help you. Look it up on google.
We got married 3 years ago and it was the best wedding of all time. The second we got back from our honeymoon we both realized how hard being married was. It was NOT the fairytale we thought it might be.
We fought and cried, didn’t talk to each other, never had sex, and were just plain mad. Oh, and did I mention we lived in a house with ourselves and 3 other dudes? Yeah, that was fun.
Then we moved halfway across the country to our first station in Virginia where my husband could start his training.
That is when I realized life is not pretty, it’s really one big mess.
We were only in Virginia for 6 months, but, it was the worst yet best 6 months I’ve gone through. I learned a lot about myself, my husband, becoming a real adult, and what it takes to be married to a military service member. It was not easy. I also gained 25 pounds.
You can read all about that in some of my first few blog posts here.
But I came out on the other side of it wanting more out of life. More than to sit and be miserable, have a bad marriage, and not great health. I started writing and realized I want to write about how hard marriage and life can be sometimes.
I want to have faith and the drive to have an awesome life, a wonderful marriage, become a great cook and be in great shape. I want to be transparent as much as I can and not live an edited “picture picture” life.
I have put these things into practice too. Brendan and I have a pretty great relationship, I have lost 35 pounds, I cook pretty awesome food, ran a couple of 5K races, conquered anxiety and plan on doing a whole lot more!
I am here to help you go through the hard things, and tell you that you are not alone. I will write about the hard things.
I will write about fun things too, don’t worry. I’m not a serious enough person to do that all the time.
Plus, life is too short not to have fun right?
So, are you ready to join me on The Short Wife? I know I am!
I would love for anyone and everybody to follow along with us! The best way for you to do that is by subscribing via email over there on the right-hand side of the page. I get a little notification when you do and it makes me jump for joy!
So, thank you in advance!
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”