YES! Finally, someone can tell me exactly how to get my husband/boyfriend to read my mind and tell him exactly how I am feeling and what I am saying without actually verbalizing it.
Seriously, if you are giving your man specific looks, sounds, noises, faces, phrases, or secret codes to try and get him to think what you’re thinking, this is the post for you!
Here we go, here are 10 ways to get him to READ YOUR MIND
1. Look at him, directly in the eyes, until he hears what words you are saying in your mind.
Yep! its that easy. IF you stare at him long enough he will 100% be responsive and understand what is going on in your head. If he gets REALLY good at this, you will even start to see improvements in the car conversations.
2. Say his name in your head REALLY LOUD. He will hear it across the entire house.
After he hears this silent call for his name, he will come running to you to talk to you. I PROMISE. It works every time
3. Send him a secret message with taps on the wall, door, or kitchen counter. Based on the code he will know what you want..
Yes, this will really………
Okay, okay, okay, I hope you know by now that that was hilarious advice that will NEVER work. The above advice will only work in a creative, made up book or movie.
But, on the other hand ladies, I know some of you wish that this was real and it was really that easy.
It can be super frustrating sometimes, when you want to silently send a message to your husband/spouse because you are upset, want to talk, or are hinting at something, and they just don’t hear it.
Why don’t they hear it?! Don’t they know me? Doesn’t he know that when I make this face that I want to have a 30 minute conversation about something? Or I made this noise and that OBVIOUSLY means I had a terrible day at work and that one new girl annoyed me? HASN’T HE FIGURED THAT OUT BY NOW?!
Ladies, ladies, it’s okay. I am going to tell you something next that will both calm you and upset you at the same time.
YOUR HUSBAND WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO READ YOUR MIND. NO MATTER HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER.
Yep. It’s disappointing but true.
There are ways that he can figure out what is going on in that spaghetti mind of yours. If you want to know how, keep reading.
Below, I am going to tell you FIVE ways you can get him to read what’s on your mind.
Trust me, this will be MONUMENTAL. LIFE CHANGING. You will never silently yell his name in your head ever again!
1. You have to tell him, out loud, exactly what you are thinking.
WHAT?! Yep. I know you think I am crazy. But this is the first of many ways to get him to know what you are thinking. You have to tell him with your words.
2. You have to…
Oh WAIT!! There isn’t another way.
Yep, I lied. There aren’t five ways to let him know what is going on in your head.
If you are reading this thinking, “Well, I DO tell him what is on my mind he just doesn’t get it or isn’t listening.”
Well, that’s true but not true at the same time. There is a lot to this topic of “he can’t read my mind or understand that I am trying to tell him something” than just voicing what is going on in your head.
BUT, I will tell you that if he is trying to ask, “How was your day?” or, “No you’re not fine, tell me what it is” and you continue just to say “fine” or “Nothing”, you can’t get mad at him for not knowing what is really going on.
In order to have a working relationship that will continue on and flourish, you both need to have communication between the two of you. And we know that we women like to talk, so it should be easy to say whats really going on.
However, sometimes that little voice in our head that likes to be passive aggressive goes, “No, don’t tell him what it is. Let him figure it out on his own time. I do that for him all of the time and its easy.”
Ladies, please PLEASE don’t do that. I know it can be hard and we all want to be a little petty sometimes (trust me, I do it sometimes too), but, how does that help the man in your life understand why you’re upset, mad, or not talking?
And don’t beat around the bush either. Tell him, with straight forward words, what it is exactly. Don’t leave anything for him to keep guessing. Use your words.
Our pre-marital counselor told me as he looked me straight in the eyes, “Erin, you have to tell Brendan with your words exactly what you need and want.”
I still remember Brendan staring at me in that moment and going, “YES! Please do that! Now will you tell me what you need?”
So, moral of the story ladies…
Use your words.
Okay, I know that was half funny and half serious. But I do hope you understand that in order to let your spouse know exactly how you’re feeling/thinking, you have to verbalize it and say something. They can’t figure it out on their own.
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Thanks for reading,
Proverbs 24:16 NIV “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”
~Erin, The Short Wife